When I first upgraded to captain about seven years ago, I flew with a first officer who was senior to me (this has happened many times over my career, both at the regional I started at, and now at my major, because I took the first available upgrade both times). Though it was seven years ago and we only flew one trip together, I remember this person in particular because of her story and because I learned some valuable lessons from flying with her (that’s a story for another article. Thanks, Anne). Anyway, every time I fly with someone senior to me, I find that the reason they haven’t upgraded (though they could have) always seems to be for quality of life.
I used to believe that was a risky way to run your career. In a movie, when the characters celebrate too soon, you just know that as soon as they start celebrating or hugging, the danger is reintroduced, and someone usually gets taken out. So I always used to believe that choosing “quality of life” in this career was the same as celebrating too soon, but now I think about this differently.
The first time you fly with someone, there is always a “get-to-know-you” part of the trip, especially the first day or two, where we talk a bunch about our situations and our stories, and I always ask a lot of questions about the other person like, “Are you married? Kids?” “Where do you live?” “Who did you fly for before?” (which leads to a whole bunch of other questions), and, “How did you get into flying in the first place?” It’s really interesting to hear all of the different paths we all took to find ourselves at our current company, airplane, and seat.
It’s fascinating to hear all of the different educations, family situations, cities people live in, companies people flew for, types of flying they’ve done, and skills or hobbies people have. Some people have had a smooth transition from flight instructing to a regional to their one and only major. Some people have been furloughed seven times or have worked for multiple companies that went out of business. I have flown with people with their Series 7 stockbroker licenses, people with doctor and lawyer credentials, rehabbers, people seriously into running, mountain biking, road biking, people who are currently famous on YouTube or Instagram, people who grew up poor, people who grew up rich, people who make movies, people who have been in movies, people who have had radio shows, people who code/hack, corporate guys, military guys, people into beer making, into cooking, into gardening and trees, into history, into politics, into economics, into world travel, and one guy that got run over by a car multiple times, wound up in the hospital, had a long time to think and I learned some valuable things from him too. In other words, it’s an amazing variety of people who we fly with.
These first officers are skilled, interesting, intelligent, and have a great work ethic and attitude. They are highly knowledgeable about the airplane and the industry. There are many who have been with the company six to 18 years and haven’t upgraded to captain. (Current upgrade time at my company in 2018 varies up and down and varies with base and airplane, but is about five years.) They often worked for a major before ours and were furloughed. They could be making twice the money that they make as first officers. They could have the “prestige” of being a captain, and having their spouse address them as “Captain (fill-in-the-blank).” They could have the ego boost at the cocktail party of being introduced as “a captain at airline X” (important to some). With the extra salary, they could have more availability of bank loans, a nicer car, a nicer house, and yet, they have chosen to stay first officers.
It’s important to remember that as first officers, they must become (what is termed in the industry) a chameleon, meaning… they have to make each new captain they fly with their “best bud” for the trip. It is a great first officer asset to have the skill to make your captain believe they are the funniest, wittiest, wisest, most-knowledgeable, and most-skilled person they’ve flown with in a long time. It has to be implied in such a way that they don’t appear to be sucking up at all. (No one likes a suck up.) This chameleon ability is a serious first officer skill; one that should be diligently developed, because it will be needed.
No matter how nerdy, dufus-y, angry, boring, non-standard, new, junior, young, old, or any other attribute that could be inserted to make a four-day trip hell, no matter what, their lives go easier if they convincingly make their captain believe that they are great. Why? Because the first officer has to work within three feet of their captain for hours at a time, in a tiny space, with no other person for conversation; and they have to do this for two to four days. They are also expected/required to mostly do what the captain wants unless it violates safety.
At my house, because we both work in the industry, we have a running joke that you know it’s time to upgrade when you just can’t stand flying with another “dufus” in the left seat – it’s time for you to be the dufus. (Don’t get offended, captains. Just a joke… but if you don’t know who the dufus in the room is… I’m just sayin’.) So why do some first officers put up with all of this and forgo the perks of captain-dom?
In the beginning of my career, it was all go. Get as far as you can as fast as you can. I was young and single, the job was new and fun and exciting. It didn’t matter if I was junior – I could put up with a short callout on reserve, or red-eyes, or flying every weekend and missing all of the holidays (at my house, we have a true story about getting to a hotel on Christmas Day while working at the regional, only to find that all the restaurants were closed and the only food was the vending machine). I could put up with low-paying trips with long hotel or airport sits; in other words, everything that goes along with being junior.
It didn’t matter because the upside (new, fun, exciting, career advancement), outweighed the downside. I had always heard advice from the captains I flew with that you always take first available upgrade, because you don’t know when the music will stop (i.e., economic slowdown = hiring stops) and upgrades would be frozen, or a merger would happen, or you’d be furloughed and on the street looking for a job. Your chances were better in all situations if you had been captain. So I took that advice, and always took first available.
Suddenly, about a year after I took first upgrade at the major, I had this sudden realization that a person could go 30 years, their entire career, chasing the rabbit. Think of a greyhound running. It runs around and around without ever catching the rabbit. I looked ahead and realized that taking “first available” is probably good advice from a “protect your downside” mentality. (I am a fan of this with finances. Personal finance is a nerd-passion of mine.) But, it meant that before I got very senior on the first officer list, I went to being junior on the captain list. At my company, the captains are all relatively young and not going anywhere, so it meant I was in for another 10-15 years of first reserve, then red-eyes, four-days, weekends/holidays, low-paying trips, etc. That’s a long time.
At seven years after upgrade, I’m halfway into it now. Off reserve after the first 2.5 years, but still getting assigned inefficient four-day trips, working every weekend, can’t get most holidays off, can’t get the shorter trips, etc.
You can go your whole career chasing the rabbit; chasing the airline, chasing the airplane, chasing the seat, always being junior. You can go your whole career and miss everything. You can miss your kids growing up, your marriage, your friends, holidays, weekend events, miss your life. The first officers I fly with who choose quality of life over the other perks of upgrade have had this realization. Time is a commodity that is ever more valuable. Your future greyhound might say sometimes it’s better to just let the rabbit go and roll around in the grass for a while.
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Interesting story, and good perspective. Hope we can expect more from the author on Air Facts.
Wow! This one hits close to home. Some things, I think I really don’t want to remember…
Reminds me of a comment I read only a few days ago. “The worst thing you can steal from someone is their time. They can ge their mony back, get their car back, and usually ransom their family, but they can’t get their time.”
It really helps to be a good “people person”. The captain is the manger of the flight. I feel if a pilot doesn’t want to upgrade to captain, especially on narrow body planes, it is just a job to them. However, many copilots make as much or more money flying right seat in the wide body fleet.
About egos, the old saying, every pilot has an ego but it depends on how they manage their ego will determine their success in the pilot world.
If you are not the lead dog, the view never changes.
I love aviation, loved my job, still fly and, YES, I still look up when a plane flies over .
Captain JC retired from a major US airline.
Props to the 747-400
In any career, you have to figure out “How much your money is costing you” and put a value on what it is worth.
I’m a capitalist but you can only eat one steak a night and you just need to decide what grade it is going to be along what is on the plate with it.
It depends on how bad you want to be a pilot. Yes, cost, timing and luck play a large part. Unfortunately, it is very expensive to learn to fly. Having 1500 hours to fly for an airline is ridiculous. All because someone did not know how to recover from a stall.
Thanks Kristin for your service to our country! Your thoughts on being captain or first officer are both enlightening and thought provoking. I’m sure most of us that don’t fly for the airlines had no idea of the consequences of upgrading to captain. Keith
Well written. However, as a 16 year captain I’ve occasionally experienced the downside of the “lifestyle choice”. I’ve flown with FO’s for whom their extracurricular activities obviously take a front seat to their professional development. I can certainly understand that moving to the left seat at the very first opportunity may not be the best idea, however, if you’re in the top 15% as an FO it’s probably time to move up.
“Professional development” – We drive a machine around. There is no professional development. A few months on the job and you’re “developed” if you’ve worked for an airline before. The idea that anyone is doing it wrong by trying to enjoy their life is crazy.
Lenny, I don’t know about yours, but at my airline the procedures and policies change so rapidly that we’re always, always working on ‘professional development’. Nothing ever stays the same. We change as quickly as the sky on a humid midwest afternoon. Management sees to it that we’re never developed.
Thank you for putting into words the ‘gut feelings’ I must have had through the first several years of a 43 year career in GA, the last 19+ as single pilot (C90B) for a $2.5B corporation.
I can tell you that this is true in most fields including engineering management. At 65 looking back on my career I consider myself lucky that my kids don’t think I abandoned the first the middle part of my career when I was a partner in a major consulting firm.
Stop and smell the roses.
I have been a first officer at my airline for 23 years! No regrets whatsoever. How I spend my time is far more important than my bank balance. Thank you for great article that explains this perspective perfectly.
Talk about two completely different paths to an aviation life! Kristin, it was interesting to read your story of how you achieved your career; lots of different ways to make our way up the aviation ladder.
The ‘other side of the coin’ is my path to a career in the sky – after fourteen years of amassing 2,000 hours of single and multiengine time, married with two kids, the airlines were finally hiring again; in 1964, TWA sent me a one way ticket to Kansas City, for two days of medical tests, interviews, etc., for a chance to become a crew member with a top shelf airline, something I had (at almost thirty years old, which was the maximum crew member employment age at that time), almost given up on, having attained a decent living after seven and a half years of ATC employment at three control towers.
This was as close as I could get, to a full time flying occupation. Luckily, I got to fly for a very busy Beechcraft dealer, with lots of charter flying in Barons and a Twin Beech. (My “in” was, the owner hired the local ANG F- 100 types to fly for him, but they did not enjoy communicating with ATC, keeping flight records, etc., so that’s where I came in.) Plenty of ROTC and civilian flight instruction as well. A comfortable life style, but not that always elusive airline job.
Initial assignment at TWA was as a flight engineer on the Connie’s, first domicile was JFK, and at $500 a month pay (later, an extra $150 as a line instructor) I was separated from my comfortable family life as control tower operator, to an existence in a smelly YMCA, having to send my family to live with the in-laws, I determined right then to never repeat this miserable life style again.
After two and a half years as line instructor and check F/E, I managed to bid directly into the right seat of the B707. Bob’s presentation, at the Yankee Air Museum, “I’m in Love With Connie” can be seen on https://www.youtube.com type in the search box Robert Trumpolt flight engineer
So I remained a right seater, getting my ATP rating (ATR back then in ‘71’), so I could fly on International. In a couple of years, I had the option of living in a hotel (on my dime), in Kansas City, on reserve, waiting for the ‘phone to ring, assigned a bunch of short flights in the ‘baby DC-9’ around ‘thunderstorm alley; just so I could wear four stripes-no thanks…as for pay, I could make about the same or more on the 707 International F/O option, with a great lifestyle to boot. When I could fly a line of time and control my preferences of days off, etc., I upgraded. For me, seniority was everything! Initially, it was back to flying domestic routes on the 707, still based at JFK, including ‘back side of the clock’ flying on the freight division, hauling cows, race horses, strawberries, flowers, drill pipe, etc., but on a line of time. Yes! Now I could still be present at all my kid’s school activities, as well as lots of ski trips, hiking and sailing with the family. The best of both worlds for me and mine. Even when the Boston domicile was closed, it was an ‘easy ‘commute to JFK. When the 707’s got melted down in the early 80’s, I was assigned to the B727: no thanks, no International flying with “Miss Piggy” as crews called her – so I bid L-1011 first officer, to remain on International, and to fly a truly magnificent airplane as well. Turned out, I was the number one seniority L- 10 F/O on International. This led to a ‘dream’ four years for me, flying exclusively with the same captain. Coming to ‘work’ every trip was heaven on earth. We would bring our wives along on our usual trip, NY to Paris, enjoy our layover there, then make a quick trip to either Cairo or Tel Aviv, and return to Paris to rejoin our gals for another layover. Life couldn’t get any better than this, but it did! When Larry retired in ‘85’, I knew I was so spoiled by my last four year’s flying, it was time to upgrade on that wonderful bird, and she took me the rest of the way to retirement.
Thank you Bob. Wow. You have an amazing story. What a difference a few years makes, in opening or closing the entry into the aviation industry! You were very persistent and dedicated to have gotten through so many obstacles to achieve your dream. I will do my best to uphold the legacy. Because of my point of entry in time my path was definitely easier, for which I am very grateful. I still am happy to feel that I earned it, and I am proud to have worked hard to get here and stay here. I still very much appreciate the opportunity I have and the responsibility I am given. I do my best to honor it. I’m so glad to have heard your story and hope it brings you great satisfaction to have lived it.–Kristin
Thank you everyone, so very much for your perspectives on my article. I really enjoy all the comments, and I’m happy that everyone is kind to each other (and to me, ha ha!). I hope that you will keep the comments coming. Clearly we have very intelligent and thoughtful readers here.–Best regards, Kristin.
So, it’s better in the right seat? They are flying the same flights and hours away from home as the rapidly rising Captain. Living the same “call outs” and other pains.
I must have missed the point.
Kristin, I’m not a commercial pilot but I have been the greyhound in another career. I think your observations and advice are great “life lessons” applicable to many, many situations outside of aviation. Well done.
Only another Captain of anything (a plane, a ship, anything carrying a bunch of people) where the ultimate responsibility of safely transporting all the souls on-board rests with you…can truly understand and appreciate and relate to situations where their’s is the last word, the final decision, the ultimate responsibility on how the trip will unfold and progress. The F.O. while he has a stake in the game can more or less relax most of the time and not be overly concerned with the myriad of decisions involved to pull off a flight safely, efficiently and on time. He (the F.O.) can even watch with perverse amusement (if he dislikes the Captain) at the stress involved in this heavy burden of responsibility.
I like that challenge and aspect of being the Captain as opposed to the right seater who is often only a helpful spectator.
A precious read , thank you